Never good enough, always the one to blame, always the one to feel responsible for the hurt. Comparisons, the push and pull dynamic, silent treatments. Good times, bad times, good times, bad times, bad times, bad times… Breadcrumbs of love. Accusations, passive-aggressiveness, playing a victim, false promises. Taking the blame for a feeling of hope things will change, good times, walking on eggshells…
Sounds familiar? Welcome to trauma bonding. Whoever thinks it’s easy to ‘just leave’ has probably never experienced a bond formulated on familiarity brought from a childhood. When you confuse emotional abuse with love. Associating disrespect, belittling, and control as signs of love and care.
I am a recovering perfectionist so I record my episodes in one go without editing. Because done is better than perfect :)
Hope you find it useful.
And remember, always treat yourself as someone you care about.